There has been a lot of talk these days about pagan holidays. Some people love to put down Christmas and Easter as pagan feasts. Others seen Halloween as the queen of pagan holidays. To me, the most insidious of them all is Valentines day. The holiday of “love” seems to me to have a forced observance. It is collusion between the flower growers, candy makers, Jewelers, restaurants, bakers and greeting card companies. If you don’t celebrate this forced holiday, you better plan on sleeping on the couch for a while, because women consider this one of the high holy days of humanity. If you don’t spend significant bucks, its like saying you don’t love her enough to deserve her, and if you don’t pay one way, you will wind up paying in another way.
It’s not a matter of spending money. I love my wife and am happy to treat her special any time I can. I love taking her to nice restaurants, buying her nice things and expressing my affection to her anytime I am able. I just don’t like being told that I HAVE TO do it on Valentines day because everyone else is doing it at that time. Its like having to make a pagan sacrifice to the demon cupid. What makes this holiday even worse, is that most men don’t have the male fortitude to talk about this for fear of their wives or girlfriends.
My wife lost all sense of romance when I suggested this was a pagan observance. Even when I offered to make her a heart-shaped meatloaf with a loving message inscribed in ketchup, she was not swayed by this token of my affection. I thought it was romantic and creative. This is a sure sign of the pagan influence. Is it just me, or is something else going on here?
The Holy Scriptures instruct us, “Husbands, Love your wives…” This isn’t about chocolate, flowers and jewelry. It’s about treating her special every day of the year. It’s about being kind and considerate, and seeking her good, every day. If you are really doing that, then the other stuff is just fluff, and should be a continuation of the specialness you express all the time. If you aren’t doing that, and Valentines day becomes the one day you treat her special, then something is more seriously wrong. If you are griping about Valentines day like I am, you had better be sure that you really are treating your wife or girlfriend special all the time, or you need to make some serious adjustments to your behavior.
I for one, will not be lassoed into having to put out for Valentines day. I will be taking my wife to Tin City, Florida where we will do some shopping, have a nice lunch and maybe get her some stuff she likes not because its Valentines day, but because I love her and she puts up with me. If that’s not love, I don’t know what is. The rest of you are on your own.